Dear Crissy

Will I have this baby early?

Everything about my third trimester feels intense.

Don’t get me wrong, I was a huge, waddling mess during the third trimester of my pregnancy with Evan, however, I never at any point felt any pelvic pain or pressure.

I think that this was probably because Evan was breech for such a long time. What I felt with his pregnancy, was a giant baby skull pressing into my rib cage, nothing like what I am feeling now, which is more like having a bowling ball nestled in my pelvis.

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I’ve talked to a lot of moms who mentioned that pelvic pain and pressure can feel worse with each pregnancy, so, I am hoping that this is just a symptom of being a second-time-mom. There are moments, however, when it really feels like this little girl is just going to drop right out, and that is a scary thing to me.

Someone also suggested that perhaps my previous c-section, and the damage that it did to my abdominal muscles, might be part of the reason for these feelings of pressure down low. That makes sense, too.

I do know that at almost 32-weeks, this baby is getting big. She also moves a lot!

I’m starting to reach the point in my pregnancy where I am stressing about everything, from my unclean house, to the bills, to making sure I have the baby necessities we need, to whether or not we’re going to have an ice storm the day I go into labor.

Oh, and the biggie. Am I going to deliver this kid VBAC, or will I have a subsequent c-section? If someone could just clear that up for me, I would appreciate it.

Did you feel increased pelvic pain or pressure during your second, third, of fourth pregnancies? Do you think this is a sign that I might deliver early?

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  1. Beth — October 28, 2011 @ 12:25 pm (#)

    My first was transverse breech – so I can totally relate to the basketball under the ribs feeling. My second child was an attempted VBAC, which ended up being a section anyway, and my son was also a section. During both those pregnancies, I felt like they were just going to fall out while I was vacuuming or something. I agree, it’s a totally disconcerting feeling. My son was actually delivered 6 weeks early because his head was up against the scar in my uterus from the previous section – but honestly, I didn’t feel any more pressure that pregnancy than the one before it.

    I did get into the habit of holding my belly up during the last few moths of both pregnancies – it didn’t make a difference, but it made me feel better, mentally. Crazy, I know.

    Hang in there!


  2. Holly — October 28, 2011 @ 12:32 pm (#)

    It’s funny that you post this, because I was just googling this yesterday. I’m also in my second pregnancy – 27.5 weeks, and I have intense pelvic pain and pressure too. It doesn’t hurt when I’m sitting, or really even when I’m standing, but when I’m walking there are times when it’s almost unbearable.

    From everything I understand, it’s pretty normal. The best thing for us to do is relax!

    Good luck with everything!


  3. Maggie @ Tethered Mommy — October 28, 2011 @ 12:44 pm (#)

    I really don’t have any advice to offer as I really can’t remember my second pregnancy as compared to my first. But I think the different position and previous c-section really do make a difference. I do hope maybe she shifts a bit (but is still head-down!) and relieves a bit of pressure.
    And I hope you do get the VBAC!


  4. Emily — October 28, 2011 @ 12:51 pm (#)

    It might be either just the 2nd pregnancy pains, or your body could be getting ready to go into labor. Not anything that would happen immediately, but I started thinning out and dilating around 32 weeks – not at a rapid pace or anything like that.. but I definitely had pains in my lower pelvic area, not just my son’s head, but could definitely feel everything getting ready.

    Two things to try to help relieve that pain: lots of potassium – eat bananas! My midwife-nurse told me this and it helped. Also, I wore a support band (that closes with velcro so you can you go loose or tight) under my belly, and like Beth said, just lifting the belly relieves so much pressure/pain.

    Good luck! I keep checking your FB posts and blog just to see how you’re doing!


  5. Jessica — October 28, 2011 @ 1:56 pm (#)

    It’s possible you’re just carrying lower. My 1st carried very low and it felt like having a watermelon in between my legs. It was not comfortable. But it wasn’t so bad. Especially since not carrying high meant less heartburn.


  6. Nolie — October 28, 2011 @ 3:38 pm (#)

    I have had the pelvic pain and pressure with this pregnancy (my 2nd). I too was told it’s normal for 2nd, 3rd etc. pregnancies. I am due Monday so I don’t think it is a sign of baby coming early.


  7. Felisha — October 28, 2011 @ 4:28 pm (#)

    I just want to say thank you for your honesty in everything you write Crissy! I am 33 weeks pregnant with my first and I feel like you and I have very similar pregnancies, it has been a relief to read that I am not alone in many of my struggles.

    Only this week did I get this sudden onset of pelvic pain that seems to weave into my hips and tail bone too, its awful! I’ve been put off work and there’s a threat of bedrest in my near future. I was told that the level of pain can be different for everyone, some women don’t have any at all and some are completely immobile for the last few weeks of pregnancy simply because of the pain and discomfort. All that to say, I think every pregnancy is different and I don’t think this symptom in particular is a second, or third pregnancy symptom… its just bad luck! I hope you can try to relax and find some relief, best wishes :)


  8. Selena — October 28, 2011 @ 6:02 pm (#)

    I felt a lot more “pressure” down there with my second pregnancy…. at the end of my first trimester, I thought he was right there…ready to come on out and say hi at any minute! Hang in there! You are almost the AMAZING finish line;)


  9. Nicole at Mommy Moxie — October 28, 2011 @ 8:22 pm (#)

    You and I are due days apart, each with our second, and I am right there with you. I had the “falling out” feeling for the longest time and then he must have turned head down, because now his little legs are so jammed against my diaphragm I can’t breathe (literally). I do get the pelvic pain though; I just figured it was my hips prepping for the big moment. All I know for sure is that this pregnancy is much more uncomfortable than the first!


  10. danielle — October 28, 2011 @ 8:53 pm (#)

    Oh mama – you can SO do this! Have you tried sitting on a exercise ball and rolling your hips, getting adjusted by a chiro or DO who does Osteopathic Manipulation? Do you know what position she’s in? (check out

    I had a VBAC in January (in my dining room!) after my first was a c/s (big baby, blah blah). I was nervous and my little guy must have known because he was 18 days ‘overdue’. But in the end, once things got rolling, all I kept telling myself was I can do this, I had a lot of pressure in my pelvic bones and knew I just had to stick it out through the contractions and at the end I would meet my beautiful baby. Not once did I think about my scar. Not. Once. If you haven’t yet, check out – lots of support there, facts, info. Your body was MADE to give birth, I’m rooting for you!


  11. Erika — October 29, 2011 @ 11:14 am (#)

    I’ve had 4 kids and it got worse each time for me. I’ve had 3 big babies (2 were 9 lb 13 oz and the 3rd was 10 lb 7 oz) and my ab muscles are shot. I’ve had 4 c-sections and all were scheduled. Despite the pain which got worse with each pregnancy, I didn’t “go” early with any of them. With my 4h baby (born in January) things got so bad I couldn’t walk anymore (I couldn’t put any weight on my leg as it went numb and would just collapse) and after an amnio confirmed my baby’s lungs were mature, the doctor did the c-section at 37 weeks. That was tough and I am glad we are done having kids. I don’t think my body could take anymore.

    I dont’ really have any good advice because the “end” is so tough, especially when you’re having pain like that. Just hang in there and know that “this too will pass.” Good luck!


  12. Melissa P. @Mel4Him — October 29, 2011 @ 11:16 am (#)

    When I was pregnant with my son I had a lot of pelvic pressure and pain. It was so bad that at around 5 months and on I had to sleep sitting up. I couldn’t lay down. Not even with a pillow between my legs. The pain and pressure was just to intense. I did go full term but had to have an emergency c-section because my son was a very large boy. His chest was very broad and he weighed in at 9 lbs 14 ounces with a length of 22 inches. lol. But everything turned out well.


  13. Kim K — October 29, 2011 @ 11:18 am (#)

    Ive been a dear chrissy follower for.a while but have never.commented. Until now. As the parent of a micro preemie born at 27w5d things like “will I go early” really aggrivate me. Do you realize that at 32 weeks you are looking at nicu time? the probability that you will leave the hospital without your baby.? The nicu is the scariest place on earth .especially when your baby is 1lb 15oz.
    before my daughter was early I too felt the same. With my first I couldnt wait for him to be born.

    all im trying to get at is this title may offend other preemie moms who would give ANYTHING for a whole 9 months.


    • Crissy — October 29th, 2011 @ 1:06 pm

      Kim, first off, thanks for reading.

      Second, what do my legitimate concerns about going into labor early (and they are concerns), have to do with mothers who have had babies prematurely?

      As the aunt to a little girl who was born at 26 weeks, I have seen first hand how devastating, scary, and traumatic a very early labor can be. I am not naive to this.

      Believe me, I fully realize that 32-weeks would mean time in the NICU, hello, that’s why I am writing about my concerns.

      What in the world makes you think I don’t want to go a full 9 months?

      That’s all I want. I am not over here chugging castor oil, or praying my baby comes early, I’m simply writing a blog post, documenting my symptoms, and wondering aloud, will I have this baby early?

      I am sorry that you found my post title offensive, however, it is extraordinarily presumptuous of you to assume that I am in some kind of hurry to have my baby, because clearly, the opposite is the case.

      • Kim K — October 29th, 2011 @ 1:27 pm

        I didnt mean for my comment to come off snappy but the title got my juices flowing. I totally read that you are,concerned about going early. I pray you dont. again I didnt mean to come off like that byt the title of your post struck a nerve.

        • Crissy — October 29th, 2011 @ 1:35 pm

          OK, Kim, thanks.

          The title was really just an honest question, to the universe, maybe. Trust me, the number one goal on this end is to have a long, uneventful pregnancy and birth! :)

    • Karen — October 29th, 2011 @ 1:09 pm

      I think that early labor is a concern for EVERY pregnant mom, and I don’t in any way imagine that Crissy actually wants to have her baby early, nor did she say anything of the sort.

  14. Danielle Sg — October 29, 2011 @ 11:20 am (#)

    The pressure you feel could be because this is your second child, and things have a way of loosening up after the first. All my girls were super active, my boys were not. The girls always felt like they were doing somersaults and punching me all the time. Don’t you just hate it when baby starts kicking the bladder? I do hope you get your VBAC. When you do have your natural delivery, try to remember the feeling of giving birth. It actually is a wonderful feeling to remember. With my fifth child, I really remembered the feel of him when I gave birth. I just had a feeling that the next one I would end up having a c-section, and I did. Doctors hate it when you start having a lot of children, and were threatening me with c-sections since my fourth.


  15. Sally — October 29, 2011 @ 11:47 am (#)

    If your feeling all that pressure you baby will be coming soon. Your baby is laying low and ready. It got hard for me to walk.


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