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Dear Crissy - Life, blogged.

It still happened

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? Or, how about this…

If a birthday party, or a delicious meal, or a family outing takes place, but it isn’t Tweeted, Instagrammed, or Facebooked — did it really happen?

While I know in my head and heart that the answer to that question is a resounding yes, my own oversharing habit makes me realize that I am not appreciating enough quiet moments and milestones in my life.

It Still Happened - Break the Oversharing Habit in 2013

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Oversharers Anonymous

I’ve been sharing bits and pieces of my life online since I was sixteen years old. I am — without question — an oversharer.

I think that we all make the personal decision when it comes to degree in which we share our private lives with with the world. After all, comfort zones vary so much from person to person.

However, I do think that these comfort levels can change and flux over time. Maybe it’s perspective, or maturity, or even just burn out, but I am feeling the urge to modify the way I operate online.

I’m not going to make any specific declarations as far as how I’ll be changing my own behavior on my blog and on social media, but I’ll definitely be following my instincts and making changes accordingly.

Changes in 2013

I definitely want to unplug more in 2013.

Even when I’m not sharing my life on social media, I’m usually taking photos, and I also want to break my camera-toting addiction. Yes, capturing memories is important, but every single moment of life that we share with our kids does not need to be documented.

I know that being tied to a camera causes me to sometimes be detached from the actions and events right under my nose. I want to leave my iPhone in my purse, leave my DSLR at home, and just live within the little pockets of time and experience that make up my life.

I’m not saying that I won’t be writing about my life, or posting personal photos, but going forward I am toning it down — especially when it comes to my kids.

It’s not like I’m suddenly having some revelation that it can be questionable to share images and information about children online, I am very conscious of that, I’m really just feeling like a change is in order for the first time. I can’t really articulate it beyond that.

Do You Overshare?

Have you ever felt the urge to stop sharing so many pieces of your personal life with the world at large? How do you determine how much is too much?

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26 Comments

  1. January 3, 2013 @ 9:14 am

    Honestly I forget to take pictures more often than not. I’ve only had a smartphone for about a year and a DSLR for about the same time. Plus I have teenagers who aren’t thrilled when mom wants to post their pics all over Facebook :)

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  2. January 3, 2013 @ 9:16 am

    I do feel the need to share…it’s kind of the modern “keeping up with the jones’s.” Anyone who’s anyone is sharing their photos and foods. I think it’s just an extension of human nature.

    That being said, I’m not one to care much about the Jones’s. I also find it annoying to be at an event or our to dinner having my phone out distracting me from conversation and taking pictures of things. I’ve found 9 times out of 10, I usually never really look at those photos again either. I’m not going to cherish a photo of that french crepe I ate that was amazing…because by now it’s living on my thighs. :)

    I think life’s a little more enjoyable without feeling the need to share every little detail of what we’re doing. But, that doesn’t mean we should stop sharing – maybe we should focus on sharing the item that means the most of what we’re doing? Like if you’re out to dinner, sharing a photo of the people your with, or the artful presentation of a meal.

    Be mindful, and pick the moments that matter most is my motto!

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  3. January 3, 2013 @ 9:23 am

    I’m the opposite because I undershare. I’m trying to work on that more in 2013.

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  4. January 3, 2013 @ 9:25 am

    I don’t think I could ever breay my Camera toting habit. I think it is a great hobby!

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  5. January 3, 2013 @ 9:27 am

    My blog took over my life the first few years and can seem more like a chore rather than fun. I still have tins of photos saved on my phone for future posts. This is a great post and I think we all could unplug but that fear of missing out drives us back. In recent months I’ve really tried to prioritize where life is, at hone with my babies :) not on fb, twitter, YouTube etc.

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  6. January 3, 2013 @ 9:41 am

    I try not to overshare the mundane stuff like “look what I am eating” unless there is a funny story. I try to keep the funny on Facebook.

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  7. January 3, 2013 @ 9:53 am

    I don’t share much of my personal life online, except when it relates to a post on my blog. I don’t ever share pictures of my kids, either. My facebook page is only related to my blog—I just keep that kind of stuff private.

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  8. January 3, 2013 @ 10:22 am

    There are so many moments that I wish I had my camera out, but then again it wouldn’t have been the same if I had. There are many moments of our life that I don’t share. I’m kind of feeling the opposite, I’d like to share more personal stuff on my blog because I feel a bit disconnected. But on the other hand, I get exactly where you are coming from. I think it is possible to share too much!

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  9. January 3, 2013 @ 10:32 am

    I try very hard to not overshare, and think I’ve done a pretty good job of it. With teens and young adults I have to be especially careful to respect their privacy.

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  10. January 3, 2013 @ 10:42 am

    I am a huge oversharer! Thanks to my husband, I have started taking fewer pictures and just enjoying the moment. I am one of those people who regrets not getting this or that picture, though. I barely took any pictures at Christmas and I am kicking myself pretty hard right now. :/

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  11. January 3, 2013 @ 10:42 am
    Shabbypink123

    I dont share more than i want the whole world to know. I am very protective of my family, and lets face it, these days we cant be naive in thinking we are immune to tragic events. Some people share way.too.much.

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  12. January 3, 2013 @ 10:51 am
    Shabbypink123

    Also, wanted to say that the best memories we make with our children will stay in their hearts and memories forever, like a photographic image in their mind. I like to focus on making those kind of memories more than worrying about what the rest of the world thinks.

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  13. January 3, 2013 @ 11:30 am

    I’m doing this too. I’m focusing more on living life offline. I also quit my personal Facebook account too, and that feels great! I’m focusing on minimlizing clutter, and getting rid of Facebook had a lot to do with that. Oh, and you might want to check out this post by Minimalist Mommy – your post made me think of it. http://www.theminimalistmom.com/2012/06/facebookphotos/ :)

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  14. January 3, 2013 @ 12:22 pm
    Sandra Lamb

    I love this because I can relate 100% especially when it comes to picture taking. I always have my SLR and iPhone ready to go so I can capture memories with of my girls. It feels like I’m capturing the moments more than I’m being apart and enjoying them. At times I force myself not to bring my SLR with me, it’s HARD…really hard but I found that I really enjoy just being in the moment with my family and they are a lot happier without the paparazzi (me!) all over them. If I do have my SLR, I give myself a limit like “only 5″ pictures and put it away. I ask my husband to hold me accountable:) Also I cut our family blog cold turkey. Yes I have regret it sometimes but I asked myself “Who am I doing this for?!” “Is this really how I should be spending my spare time?” It was a no brainer- being WITH my family is more important than blogging about them.

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  15. January 3, 2013 @ 1:11 pm

    I hear you! I made the conscious decision not to post anything to social media during our Christmas trip last week. And I didn’t lug my DSLR around Orlando theme parks because I knew it would cause me pain and anxiety. So I snapped a few photos with my iPhone and just generally enjoyed the time with my family. This week I’ve been sharing a few photos on Instagram as #latergrams which, IMHO, has been just as rewarding as sharing them “instantly”.

    Great post, Crissy!

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  16. January 3, 2013 @ 1:12 pm

    I love that you admit that you can’t fully articulate all your reasons for scaling back. I get that! Sometimes it is what it is.
    I’m actually the exact opposite of you: I am an under sharer. My teen and tween daughters give me the stink eye if I even mention I want to share a picture.
    They must approve it first and woe be to me if that picture is old! And pictures have a shelf life of about a week, maybe two around here and then it is old news.

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  17. January 3, 2013 @ 1:13 pm

    Funny, I have the reverse ‘resolution’, to share more.
    Not personal nitty-gritty, but more ‘family’ type stuff and less reviews/robot posts. I want to get back to the blogging roots, too many blogs are more like ads now. You know, like the review posts that have one stock image and a ‘my kids liked it’ type of ‘review’. Ya, that’s an ad, not a genuine post.
    While it’s good to put the camera down and unplug more, I want the time I do go online, to truly count.

    Great post Crissy, really makes you think!!

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  18. January 3, 2013 @ 1:35 pm

    I don’t think I over share that much, but it’s easy to get swept into the tide. But there are times when I feel guilty (why?) that I’m not uploading 10x a day to instagram and sharing every single moment like others do. Thanks for the reminder that it’s ok to NOT do that.

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  19. January 3, 2013 @ 4:10 pm
    Nancy Reid

    I just started sharing a couple of years ago and am still learning how to do it and am so excited to share so much with so many. As an older person it is like a miracle.

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  20. January 3, 2013 @ 11:30 pm

    yes! i so get this! i have started purposely leaving my camera behind so i won’t even be temptedto take photos. i still love taking pictures most of the time, but sometimes i enjoy just enjoying the actual event, no photos required to have wonderful memories!

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  21. January 4, 2013 @ 3:33 pm

    I definitely don’t hin k I overshare…I don’t have an iphone nor do I Tweet so….as far as my blog goes, family reads it so I gotta share some stuff that ‘s not craft related :)

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  22. January 6, 2013 @ 10:37 am

    Yeah…. my husband is constantly telling me he hates my phone because I’m a bit, er, attached to it and the wonderful(!) things(!) you can do with it!!!
    I love my social media, but I too am trying to cut back… or only use my phone when the Hubz is not around… hehe :)

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  23. January 6, 2013 @ 12:22 pm

    One our last vacation I made an effort to not take too many photos or videos. I used my DSLR just a little and only took a few phone photos. I used Photo Pass at Disney and got the photographers to take our photos instead. I wanted to really enjoy myself and not worry about capturing every moment. I wish someone would have given my MIL the memo. Every time I went to snap a photo of her on a ride with one of the kids she had her iPhone up trying to photograph her and the kids(s) or take a video. I’m all about enjoying the moment now, and not enjoying it looking through the lens. Loved this post, fits perfectly with the direction I’m going and how I want to enjoy life.

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  24. January 10, 2013 @ 10:27 am

    I wouldn’t say that I’m an oversharer… matter of fact, I don’t like that I didn’t take as many pictutes as I would have liked this year. But this does make me think about what I should and would tell about my life. I don’t want everything out there, but sometimes being a little bit personal is good.

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  25. January 26, 2013 @ 12:26 am

    I feel the same way. What happened to being in the moment? Being with your kids on outings or just at home? Why does everyone need to see and know what we are doing, where we are, and what we think. This really annoys me when I see a family out doing a “family thing” and the parents are on their phones – texting, surfing the web, or even uploading pics to facebook of the event – they are missing out on the precious gifts of their children. Life unplugged is better in so many ways…

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  26. February 23, 2013 @ 9:16 am

    I started blogging back in the days of MySpace – so about 8-9 years ago. I think early adoption of social media is what has fueled my over sharing. Fortunately, I haven’t gotten too crazy with pictures, but then again… I do sometimes share pictures of my food, Yikes. :D

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