Dear Crissy

It still happened

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? Or, how about this…

If a birthday party, or a delicious meal, or a family outing takes place, but it isn’t Tweeted, Instagrammed, or Facebooked — did it really happen?

While I know in my head and heart that the answer to that question is a resounding yes, my own oversharing habit makes me realize that I am not appreciating enough quiet moments and milestones in my life.

It Still Happened - Break the Oversharing Habit in 2013

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Oversharers Anonymous

I’ve been sharing bits and pieces of my life online since I was sixteen years old. I am — without question — an oversharer.

I think that we all make the personal decision when it comes to degree in which we share our private lives with with the world. After all, comfort zones vary so much from person to person.

However, I do think that these comfort levels can change and flux over time. Maybe it’s perspective, or maturity, or even just burn out, but I am feeling the urge to modify the way I operate online.

I’m not going to make any specific declarations as far as how I’ll be changing my own behavior on my blog and on social media, but I’ll definitely be following my instincts and making changes accordingly.

Changes in 2013

I definitely want to unplug more in 2013.

Even when I’m not sharing my life on social media, I’m usually taking photos, and I also want to break my camera-toting addiction. Yes, capturing memories is important, but every single moment of life that we share with our kids does not need to be documented.

I know that being tied to a camera causes me to sometimes be detached from the actions and events right under my nose. I want to leave my iPhone in my purse, leave my DSLR at home, and just live within the little pockets of time and experience that make up my life.

I’m not saying that I won’t be writing about my life, or posting personal photos, but going forward I am toning it down — especially when it comes to my kids.

It’s not like I’m suddenly having some revelation that it can be questionable to share images and information about children online, I am very conscious of that, I’m really just feeling like a change is in order for the first time. I can’t really articulate it beyond that.

Do You Overshare?

Have you ever felt the urge to stop sharing so many pieces of your personal life with the world at large? How do you determine how much is too much?

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  1. Ellen Christian — January 3, 2013 @ 9:14 am (#)

    Honestly I forget to take pictures more often than not. I’ve only had a smartphone for about a year and a DSLR for about the same time. Plus I have teenagers who aren’t thrilled when mom wants to post their pics all over Facebook :)


  2. Alissa — January 3, 2013 @ 9:16 am (#)

    I do feel the need to share…it’s kind of the modern “keeping up with the jones’s.” Anyone who’s anyone is sharing their photos and foods. I think it’s just an extension of human nature.

    That being said, I’m not one to care much about the Jones’s. I also find it annoying to be at an event or our to dinner having my phone out distracting me from conversation and taking pictures of things. I’ve found 9 times out of 10, I usually never really look at those photos again either. I’m not going to cherish a photo of that french crepe I ate that was amazing…because by now it’s living on my thighs. :)

    I think life’s a little more enjoyable without feeling the need to share every little detail of what we’re doing. But, that doesn’t mean we should stop sharing – maybe we should focus on sharing the item that means the most of what we’re doing? Like if you’re out to dinner, sharing a photo of the people your with, or the artful presentation of a meal.

    Be mindful, and pick the moments that matter most is my motto!


  3. Stacie — January 3, 2013 @ 9:23 am (#)

    I’m the opposite because I undershare. I’m trying to work on that more in 2013.


  4. Erinn A — January 3, 2013 @ 9:25 am (#)

    I don’t think I could ever breay my Camera toting habit. I think it is a great hobby!


  5. Christy, Home-Mom — January 3, 2013 @ 9:27 am (#)

    My blog took over my life the first few years and can seem more like a chore rather than fun. I still have tins of photos saved on my phone for future posts. This is a great post and I think we all could unplug but that fear of missing out drives us back. In recent months I’ve really tried to prioritize where life is, at hone with my babies :) not on fb, twitter, YouTube etc.


  6. Francine — January 3, 2013 @ 9:41 am (#)

    I try not to overshare the mundane stuff like “look what I am eating” unless there is a funny story. I try to keep the funny on Facebook.


  7. Dede — January 3, 2013 @ 9:53 am (#)

    I don’t share much of my personal life online, except when it relates to a post on my blog. I don’t ever share pictures of my kids, either. My facebook page is only related to my blog—I just keep that kind of stuff private.


  8. Mel — January 3, 2013 @ 10:22 am (#)

    There are so many moments that I wish I had my camera out, but then again it wouldn’t have been the same if I had. There are many moments of our life that I don’t share. I’m kind of feeling the opposite, I’d like to share more personal stuff on my blog because I feel a bit disconnected. But on the other hand, I get exactly where you are coming from. I think it is possible to share too much!


  9. Angela — January 3, 2013 @ 10:32 am (#)

    I try very hard to not overshare, and think I’ve done a pretty good job of it. With teens and young adults I have to be especially careful to respect their privacy.


  10. Mallery Schuplin — January 3, 2013 @ 10:42 am (#)

    I am a huge oversharer! Thanks to my husband, I have started taking fewer pictures and just enjoying the moment. I am one of those people who regrets not getting this or that picture, though. I barely took any pictures at Christmas and I am kicking myself pretty hard right now. :/


  11. Shabbypink123 — January 3, 2013 @ 10:42 am (#)

    I dont share more than i want the whole world to know. I am very protective of my family, and lets face it, these days we cant be naive in thinking we are immune to tragic events. Some people share way.too.much.


  12. Shabbypink123 — January 3, 2013 @ 10:51 am (#)

    Also, wanted to say that the best memories we make with our children will stay in their hearts and memories forever, like a photographic image in their mind. I like to focus on making those kind of memories more than worrying about what the rest of the world thinks.


  13. Lisa Brown — January 3, 2013 @ 11:30 am (#)

    I’m doing this too. I’m focusing more on living life offline. I also quit my personal Facebook account too, and that feels great! I’m focusing on minimlizing clutter, and getting rid of Facebook had a lot to do with that. Oh, and you might want to check out this post by Minimalist Mommy – your post made me think of it. :)


  14. Sandra Lamb — January 3, 2013 @ 12:22 pm (#)

    I love this because I can relate 100% especially when it comes to picture taking. I always have my SLR and iPhone ready to go so I can capture memories with of my girls. It feels like I’m capturing the moments more than I’m being apart and enjoying them. At times I force myself not to bring my SLR with me, it’s HARD…really hard but I found that I really enjoy just being in the moment with my family and they are a lot happier without the paparazzi (me!) all over them. If I do have my SLR, I give myself a limit like “only 5” pictures and put it away. I ask my husband to hold me accountable:) Also I cut our family blog cold turkey. Yes I have regret it sometimes but I asked myself “Who am I doing this for?!” “Is this really how I should be spending my spare time?” It was a no brainer- being WITH my family is more important than blogging about them.


  15. Malia — January 3, 2013 @ 1:11 pm (#)

    I hear you! I made the conscious decision not to post anything to social media during our Christmas trip last week. And I didn’t lug my DSLR around Orlando theme parks because I knew it would cause me pain and anxiety. So I snapped a few photos with my iPhone and just generally enjoyed the time with my family. This week I’ve been sharing a few photos on Instagram as #latergrams which, IMHO, has been just as rewarding as sharing them “instantly”.

    Great post, Crissy!


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