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Being a SAHM is the best decision I’ve ever made

The other night while chatting with my mom on Facebook, I told her that I was feeling a little sad because Evan is growing up so quickly.

“He is growing like a weed,” she said.

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I then told her, that while I definitely have those emotional MOMents as he continues to change right before my eyes, I also feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to be home with him every single day.

She said, “I know, it is the best decision you’ve ever made.”

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Being a SAHM really is the best decision I have ever made, and it was one that I was absolutely firm on for years before having my kid. I realize that many women work outside the home because they want to, and many because they need to. I understand both.

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I was raised by two parents who both worked outside the home, so I know that it’s not the worst scenario by a long shot, but wow, I feel so LUCKY to be able to spend my days with my kid.

On another note, Evan is never happier than when he is outside, toddling around the yard with a stick. Is the love for sticks a universal trait among little boys, or what?

Happy Child

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  1. March 15, 2011 @ 12:52 am

    You are a very lucky lady that you are able to stay at home with your son. I wish I was able to stay home with mine. :( I am grateful that I have every summer and holiday to, and cherish every moment.

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    • March 15, 2011 @ 10:45 am

      Summers and holidays are fantastic! If I did have to work, I would want a teacher’s schedule! :) Thanks for commenting Lolo.

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  2. March 15, 2011 @ 12:58 am

    I was so glad we were able to make it work for me to stay home. I was thinking about it while on maternity leave – then my position was eliminated about halfway through..decision made for me!

    I do work part time from home now and I love it… in only 4 months I’m amazed at all I’ve shared with my daughter!

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  3. March 15, 2011 @ 1:00 am

    I am a SAHM, and as frustrating as my girl can be at times, I wouldn’t trade the “MOM HURRY” in the morning when she wakes up, or the “I love” at night (we’re still working on that whole “you” part). It’s a struggle in this economy, but we make it through somehow.

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    • March 15, 2011 @ 10:46 am

      It’s definitely a hard, and sometimes frustrating job! :)

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    • April 25, 2011 @ 4:24 pm

      I agree. It’s a struggle sometimes but there are so many ways to cut corners and figure it out. In the end the most valuable thing is being able to hug my little guy or carry him around in the middle of the day just because I feel like it.

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  4. March 15, 2011 @ 1:01 am

    I’m a SAHM, and I agree with you 100%. It really was the best decision I’ve ever made. I can’t imagine life any other way.

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  5. March 15, 2011 @ 1:08 am

    I’m a SAHM too, just like you. I’m glad I could be a significant part of both my boys life every single day, every minute and every hour. I also bring them anywhere I go. They are 5yo and 10mos old :) You got a handsome young man over there! He looks great in green..

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  6. March 15, 2011 @ 2:17 am

    I am also a stay at home mom, I love it on most days. Unfortunately I think I have to trade it for at least a part-time job :/ It’s been almost two years so it’s been great. Hopefully, I will be able to return to it.

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  7. March 15, 2011 @ 3:44 am

    I’m a SAHM, which was the plan…but not quite this early. ;) My husband is in the army, and currently deployed in Afghanistan, so I was going to work until he got home. My job, on the other hand, had a different idea… Oh well, this was the plan anyway! It just started a little early.

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  8. March 15, 2011 @ 6:51 am

    Chrissy, I know exactly how you feel! I worked up till 6 months of my 3rd pregnancy. So I was a SAHM w/my 2 boys but worked w/the girls. It can be hard at times but it is the best to be able to stay home w/them! I do feel guilty @ times that I wasn’t able to have as much “at home time” w/my girls but at the time I had to work. Enjoy this time now because before you know it you will have a 13 year old like me! Many days I still can’t believe how grown-up my oldest is & wonder where the time went! Just keep on taking lots of pics like you do & treasure every moment! Have a great day!
    Allison :)

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  9. March 15, 2011 @ 8:33 am

    I have been a SAHM for going on 8 years now. I have had ups and downs along the way but I have been able to enjoy each stage of my kids lives. My oldest is now 13 and my youngest is 3. I am currently looking for a part time evening job to have as my “Me” time away from this kids. While it has always been a priority for me to be home for the kids all day in case of emergencies at school etc, I feel that it is a good time to start moving on. While my older three were ok when I was not around that is not the case with my 3 year old. He has a hard time even when I make a quick run to the store. Maybe it is because I have so many kids (lol) that I feel the need to take this route but in the end I am still home when they need me and in my place while I go to work will be my husband. He says that when I take seasonal jobs outside the home he feels he can spend more quality time with the kids than when I am around. Plus I tend to be happier and have more motivation. I think it is a blessing to be able to chose when and if you want to work while your children are small. I am very glad I can.

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  10. March 15, 2011 @ 8:34 am

    I am a SAHM and even on my worst days, there is no place I would rather be. No other place that I should be.

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  11. March 15, 2011 @ 9:00 am

    As a SAHM, I completely agree with you about feeling so lucky to be around for my boys while they are growing up. I know that our family is blessed to have a dad who can provide for us and allow me to stay home. The time has passed so quickly – I look at my 11 year old and realize oh my, only seven more years and nine for my youngest.

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  12. March 15, 2011 @ 10:02 am

    Crissy,

    I absolutely agree, being a SAHM is one of the best experiences of my life! And yes, collecting sticks IS a universal little boy trait. ;)

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    • March 15, 2011 @ 10:47 am

      Ah, I knew it with the sticks! When we go outside it’s an immediate rush to collect sticks!

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  13. March 15, 2011 @ 10:05 am
    Denise LeBegue

    You are indeed lucky and smart to SAH with Evan. I wish I was able to be home with my little guy. Fortunately, my husband gets to be with him a few days a week, and my aunt watches him the other days. They both lavish him with love and attention, so that lessens the guilt a little. My guy will be 20 months next week and I can totally relate to how they change soooo fast and little boys do love sticks….and ROCKS. We find rocks everywhere these days. :)

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  14. March 15, 2011 @ 10:08 am

    It is the best decision I ever made, too. But unlike you, I was dead set AGAINST it my whole life, until my daughter came along. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom. But after she was born, I couldn’t stand the thought of being anything else. And we were fortunate that it worked for us financially.

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  15. March 15, 2011 @ 10:20 am

    I decided to become a SAHM when my baby girl was born. I agonized over the decision (see my post here: http://www.thesimplethingsblog.com/2010/08/my-big-decision.html) because I’m a very career-focused person, but it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I may go back to work eventually, but for now, I’m enjoying every second at home.

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  16. March 15, 2011 @ 10:21 am

    consider yourself very fortunate. Many of us would LOVE to be able to stay at home with our child(ren), but this economy does not necessarily lend itself to that.

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    • March 15, 2011 @ 10:44 am

      Katie, oh, I know. My ability to stay at home is actually month-to-month, and there are times when I think I’ll need to join the workforce again to ensure we are well-enough financially. You do what you gotta do, for sure! Thanks for commenting.

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  17. March 15, 2011 @ 10:31 am

    I’m a very proud SAHM. My husband grew up with his mom at home, while my mom had to work (sometimes 2 or 3 jobs to make ends meet). From the time that my husband and I got married we always agreed that if our financial situation allows for it, I would stay home with the kids, get to be the room mom, do all that stuff.
    So far it’s the best decision we made. I got a college degree. I had a job that I liked, but not a career I loved. So now I get the chance to see my son make friends, and learn new things everyday and I am getting to do all my fun stuff like photography, cooking on the side and not feel like I’m taking that time away from the family.

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    • March 15, 2011 @ 10:48 am

      Colleen, same here on the college degree, and career I liked (but not loved).

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  18. March 15, 2011 @ 11:04 am

    I always said when I had children, I would be a SAHM. And here I am at work replying to this… it took me nearly a full year of letting go of the bitterness that comes from being a Working Mom who’s working because she has to- and now that I’m seeing the big picture, I just try to focus on the good that comes from me working and Lovie being in daycare. Because there really is good in being a WM… though I’d do just about anything to be a SAHM because when people ask what I do, I always tell them “I’m a mother.” Because that’s who I am now- working mom or not- I’m a mother. :)

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  19. March 15, 2011 @ 11:11 am

    My children are now 12, 8 and 5, and because I know who I am – my gifts and flaws – I knew being a SAHM was not for me. I was just not created that way, and I realize I may be in the minority, and that’s okay. Early on in my career, I realized that I needed flexibility in my schedule, so I negotiated it at work, and I know how blessed I have been along the way. Now that all three of my children are in school, they really need their Mom home more because life just demands it… so, I have again negotiated and I have been working only 2 days/week since 1/1/11.
    As Moms, we don’t need to put ourselves in one box or another… and we certainly shouldn’t think that ALL Moms NEED to be SAHMs… we were all created differently, with different talents and needs… and like I said, we can adjust along the way as we need to or as our kids need us to.
    I blogged about the crossraods in my life here –> http://thewhitewords.blogspot.com/2010/12/at-crossroads.html

    Thanks for letting me share!

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  20. March 15, 2011 @ 11:11 am

    I worked at home for a year and a half with my now 4-yr old. I worked from home with my youngest, now 1, for a year and just recently starting working outside of the home 2 days a week for a contract job. I’ve found that my happy medium is outside of the home SOME is best for all of us. The additional income has allowed us to breathe a bit easier, the kids miss me, and I miss them which makes our days together even more cherished but not nearly as hard as being away for 5 days full-time like I was before.

    They grow so fast, and you’ll notice WHEN you have your 2nd…it goes even faster. Being home with them is certainly a joy and a blessing and I couldn’t agree with you more about being lucky. Because you will never get this time back.

    And yes, all boys love sticks…and mud :)

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